So much change has happened in mine and H's lives in the last couple of years. As our family dynamic changed, my whole focus was on how we could co-parent her as lovingly and thoughtfully as we would have if we stayed a couple. As we've weaved the fabric of our new family dynamic, I'm finally able to take a breath and start thinking about what will happen when that dynamic changes again. What does dating with a child even look like?
I'm a chronic over-thinker, and I have to make very purposeful decisions in order for it to feel right for me. So now that I've begun to mentally process what this next stage could mean, I've started to pay more attention to other people in the same place in their lives. Looking to them with curiosity and wonder... of how that process went for them. I see all of these mamas finding love again, and I wonder how they were able to determine that this was the partner for them. For all of them. I imagine there is a fine line, of when it's too soon to introduce this new person to your child - but also not wanting to waste time with someone who wouldn't be a good fit for them as well.
So here I am wondering... what does dating with a child even look like? I know it can't be the same as it was before I had H, and thank goodness for that. I thank my stars for her, because her presence has made me find my worth. I know that whoever I do meet has to love me fully, and love her fully. Her presence allows me to know how great love can be, and that there is no joy in settling. I'd love to hear about your experiences with dating as a single mama! Share your story with me!
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