🗣Talking vs Dating😍

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Hell, sometimes we don’t even know the difference between the two “situations”. But, when this happens somebody's feelings always get hurt. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️. I'll think a guy is really interested in going on a date with me, and then he ends up playing games, and I realize he was just talking. Even my feelings get hurt sometimes (but only for 5 minutes bc flights > feelings). Anyway. 

Y’all love asking me about my love life (🤣🤣), and I really don’t mind sharing my thoughts on the whole dating world as I see it. So, here’s the most recent question. 

Talking vs Dating featured by top lifestyle blog, Mom Crush Monday

🗣🗣Talking and Dating😍😍. What’s the damn difference?🤷🏼‍♀️

Talking and dating are totally different terms. Talking means they are “exploring their options”. Dating means they are "exclusive”. When he says "we talk", it really means I am exploring my options, you're one of them, and I talk to you sometimes.This might even mean that he's been on one☝🏼date with her, but nothing happened outside of dinner and a movie. For a woman, talking means she took time to actually listen to him (which is a big damn deal) and she is considering adding him to her roster of possibles. She is usually giving him a slot that someone else could take. For both of them, talking means there are other people in the picture and no one is committed. When she says "we talk"----she means just that---we communicate with each other. 

Talking vs Dating featured by top lifestyle blog, Mom Crush Monday

Now, when it comes to dating; for the guy, this usually means "he's catching feelings and doesn't want her talking to other people" (see what I did there). He will get upset about her chatting it up with other men and see it as disrespect. On the other hand; for a woman, dating means "I chose him and this is serious". She doesn't think they are about to get married or anything, but she is willing to spend her time WITH him and see him as relationship material. 

I don't talk these days since I'm on a mission, but I do look forward to finding someone to date and share my life with. 

Talking vs Dating featured by top lifestyle blog, Mom Crush Monday

This is why I have to communicate with the people who show interest in me and want to get to know me better. You have to communicate too. A simple change in the words you use could make a huge difference and get two nice people into some crazy ish. Ask him what he means he says "yea, I talk to her" or "we're just talking" and be sure to set your boundaries for those connections. When, y'all start going on 4 and 5 dates and choosing Netflix & Chill as an option, tell him what that means for you, mama. This is your world, men just live in it.

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