5 Ways to Build Confidence In Children
The best thing besides love, you could give your child, is confidence. This is what it’s all about. Our goal as parents is to make our children into the best versions of themselves. To give them the best chance at living out their dreams, their goals, and their visions. That message has to start early on. We can’t expect them to hear a lifetime of no you can’t, and then get to being an adult and believe they can. I truly believe if we want to build confidence in children, we have to allow them to be confident from an early age.
People sometimes question why I call my four year old daughter a blogger. Well because she is. She has vision, and stories she wants to share now, so yes I have to type it out for her, but her words and her magic. I want to see her live out all of her dreams. The ones she has now, and the ones she has in the future.
Here are five ways you can build confidence in children:
1. Encourage them now. Do they want to open a lemonade stand? GREAT! It may be a little inconvenient for you, but think about the incredible lessons they can learn from it. Let them do the hard work too. Let them make the lemonade, and the signs. Let them reap the benefits of the hard work. If something doesn’t go right, let them learn from it and help them see that they can do better next time. Let them see that failing doesn’t equal failure. It means you just have to work harder next time.
2. Build up their dreams. Does your child talk about being a doctor and saving lives? Build on that! Manifest that dream into life. Your child might not be able to be a doctor right now, but they can certainly help others. Take that passion and devote it to volunteering with the homeless, women’s shelters, and humane societies. Let them see how their actions make a difference and continue to build them up!
3. Praise them. Praising your children doesn’t mean that you don’t keep them accountable when they have done something wrong. What it does mean is continuously building them up and letting them know when they are doing something right. Think about a day when you were given compliments, and people were being especially kind to you; it made your self-worth increase, didn’t it? We need to remind our children what they are worth on a regular basis, so they never forget and settle for less.
4. Practice what you preach. Your children are watching and listening. Always. Those little ears and eyes pick up everything. If you are constantly breaking yourself down, they will learn to do the same. They look up to you. Let them. It is okay to show vulnerability to them, but remember that you don’t want that to be what they always hear. Reinforce your strengths and allow them to embrace theirs as well. Your confidence will help them establish theirs.
5. Trust them. Give them jobs around the house, or side projects for things that you are working, and emphasize the importance of them. Let them know that you trust them to do a good job and try their hardest because they have proven to you that they can! If they make a mistake, don’t focus on that. Coach them on improving their skills, without breaking down their spirit. Emphasizing the good they did as well. It pays off in the long run to be more patient with them in the short term.
There you have it. Five ways I build confidence in my girl, and it’s paid off. I’d love to hear ways you build confidence in children also! Drop me a comment so I can learn from you amazing mamas too!